I Want To Talk To My Spouse About Our Child, But All He/She Wants To Do Is Argue. How Can I Communicate Without It Always Turning Into A Fight?

I want to talk to my spouse about our child, but all he/she wants to do is argue. How can I communicate without it always turning into a fight?

Because conflict is high between you and your spouse, consider the following:

• Ask your lawyer to help you obtain a court order for custody and parenting time that is specific and detailed. This lowers the amount of necessary communication between you and your spouse.
• Put as much information in writing as possible
• Consider using email or mail, especially for less urgent communication
• Avoid criticisms of your spouse’s parenting
• Avoid telling your spouse how to parent
• Be factual, and business-like
• Acknowledge to your spouse the good parental qualities he or she displays, such as being concerned, attentive, or generous.
• Keep your child out of any conflicts

By focusing on your behavior, conflict with your spouse has the potential to decrease. Additionally, talk to your attorney about developing a communication protocol to follow when communicating with your spouse.